There's one thing about "terms" of our non-speaking that I don't like. I think it comes across as a hostile "I don't want to talk to you". But the way I feel about it is kind of a friendly "I am not starting conversations with you because I want to give you space to talk to me when you feel like it". Non-pursuing, but nice, friendly and upbeat.
At the risk of mind reading, I'm pretty sure that the first one is how H perceives it. I don't think that's good, but I'd like someone else to chime in?
Accept that there is only one thing you can change in life and that is you
