He will get what he wants - a single and free life with no responsibility...I'll gladly take it...my kids' love and respect is WORTH it.
Thanks for your encouragement...
The culture around divorce for men is different than women I think. Maybe that is why I feel like my M failures mean that my kids are now more hers than mine, even though she's the one looking for the "freedom" of divorce. Her comments telling me that I destroyed her life set that feeling in stone...until I break it lose and realize how incorrect that is.
I guess what I'm trying to say is that no matter how bad your H has been, for him to be involved, he needs that encouragement you gave by reminding him to email your son. It would be ideal if all men regardless of our baggage were made to feel that their "old" family was still theirs, less the x-wife. That just isn't the case...court cases and fear do a good job, as does custody issues. I feel like giving up on joint custody already, and we're just in mediation, because I simply can't afford it (although my W would have extra money).
Of course I shouldn't "need" encouragement, and your H may not deserve it for not owning up to his responsibility in the likely D, but for your kids sake...keep doing it.
