Thank you FMV! My bday is on Monday. I'm going for a trip this weekend as a sort of present to myself, I probably won't do much on the day.
My H seems to think that my GAL is "trying to show him", because the last few days he posted a few mysterious statuses on FB saying that he enjoyed himself last night and then that he's looking forward to Saturday, but never disclosing any details of what he's actually doing. It feels like he's trying to one-up me...
I think it's bad thinking though (and possibly mind reading) so I'm trying to redirect those thoughts and instead be happy that he's doing something for himself instead of being stuck at home and depressing. (It's not easy when I wish he was missing me and not be out having fun. There, I said it.) I'm not sure if that's the right route of challenging my thoughts but I guess we'll see.
I've been trying to pay attention to my negative thoughts in general and see "where they come from" but it's hard to find weak spots there, the whole flow of thoughts makes so much sense. Maybe I need to start writing them down so that they're not so elusive.
Accept that there is only one thing you can change in life and that is you
