Going straight forward...antlers 6th thread.

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soleil, concerning the child support that I'm obligated to pay her until my youngest D is 18...yes, she is 'entitled' to any increases in my income that I might sustain over the next 4 years. Great and fair system...huh?

I do have moral debt in being the way that I used to be... But I had already started making the changes that she'd wanted me to make all along BEFORE she left. It didn't matter. She had others involved at that point.

I do feel OK about me doing everything within my power to keep this from happening. I know in my heart that I did do that. It means nothing to her, but it means something to me. And I have made huge changes, good changes, along the way, in myself. I feel good about myself now, being the way that I am now. I wish it hadn't taken me so long though. I feel like I could have prevented much pain and suffering, for all of us.
In order to learn from the past, one must forgive it, but it's hard.