sorry, that thread was Setting Them Free, not Letting Them Go, lol!
Here is is:
http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2030222#Post2030222

The other thread to read is this one on Boundaries:

http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=1859179#Post1859179


Me 36; H 40
baby born in May
M:13, T:15
Bomb (OW): Dec 09
began DBing: Feb
WH overseas with OW
old: http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2027369#Post2027369