I really appreciated your post and your masculine perspective. Thank you very much! Had it not been for all of you wonderful men on this board I think it would have been easy to adopt a "women vs. men" mentality in response to the situations we are facing.........but I never entertained that oppositional attitude because of men like you and others (I hope you know who you are ) who hang out here.
Originally Posted By: Truegritter
When I began to grow after coming here I began to see my relationships in a new way.
Grit, do you remember what it was that allowed you to see the impact of your "perpetually adolescent" friends on your R with W?
Originally Posted By: Truegritter
We are still friends but I don't let myself be caught up in that state of mind any longer.
Has the nature of these friendships changed with this realization? Do you spend less time with these friends? Are you able to have conversations with them about things that you really care about? Just wondering what this might look like. I want to be able to recognize what mature male Rs look like in the future. It wasn't until at least a couple years after I met H/XH that I realized how immature his BMF was.
Originally Posted By: Truegritter
My point is when you grow you change and maybe he is looking at this friendship for what it really brings to him.
XH invited me to play table tennis with him again next Wednesday, so maybe I'll get more insights then......For a couple minutes last night I saw behind his mask. He let down his guard with me. I don't remember ever seeing him so unguarded before.
Mila, thanks for stopping by. Always good to see you!
) who hang out here. 
