Thanks for the feedback. I do agree that my sense of worth needs to come from inside. It can just be hard to hold on to sometimes when you are always being told that you are cold, uncaring, selfish.
When the person you have married and planned to spend you life with tells you that they know you think you are a nice guy but that you are wrong. That they feel you have let them down in so many ways.
I still struggle to understand where all of the anger and negativity comes from and why. I realised 3 or 4 years ago that things were not where they had been but I still always thought we loved each other and that when the kids got a bit older we would come out the other side. That we were just going through the flat patch that many marriages do immediately after children came along. I certainly never felt like I had abandoned my wife
