"I'm not sure I understand how the NC worked (or rather, didn't work) b/c you said you sent her journals. Were you emailing her when you were saying NC?"
Well, the journal wasnt from me to her. It was so i could tell her things about the kids etc. When she crossed a boundary, i took her ability to text me away be changing my phone number. She doesnt have a computer at his house so email is out.hope that explains the journal. I took the texting away as we have texted back and forth for years, just quick notes to say hi and flirt etc. She kept doing this and then would change in person. She was causing me a lot of pain. I asked her to stop and she didnt, so i changed my number.
She will not give me her agreed to child support so i now cancelled all of her car, insurance and gym membership payments.
She was stealing mail etc from my home (she works for the post office) so she is not allowed on my property.
I guess the hard part is she wants me to still be there for her, to be her best friend and someone she can fight with. No i have removed that option from her. She has tried to contact me, but i refuse to talk to her. Everyone in her family and my family is with me on this. She abondond her children, her brother and her mother. None of them will accept this decision of her and her OM. She is blood to them, But these 4 beautiful children are blood also. The family knows the battle i am having with the bio dad for the 2. We have all kind of gotten closer so we can really support each other.
She has given up everything. This women couldnt be away from her kids for 3 days and now she sees them for 8 hours a week and everyother weekend and the oldest 2 she only gets 1 weekend a month their father gets 2 and i get 1. Both our families expected her to snap out of it already, but she hasnt and now she is taking the 2 youngest (mine) to her new home and the OM for her weekend visit. That really hurt me. That was when all this really hit home. I am lost now, and i cant find myself.
