He came telling me, "mom dad finally answered me" with a smile on his face. He doesn't know it's because I told his dad how terrible that it was for him to not respond so then probably out of guilt - he does. This is the stuff that is tearing me up. I see my kids feel so abandoned by their dad.
I'm now separated, and while my kids are with me during weekend days, I also feel I'm abandoning them. I wish I could say I never thought it, but I did/do think that maybe my Ws attacks on me are justified and that I need to step out of their lives more than in.
So far the thing that always pulls me back isn't the guilt, it is the love of my kids for me that they express in small ways and comments.
Your H has done some stuff that you've had a lot of problems dealing with. I can't imagine how hard it was, but in many ways, that was the past. Now with court days coming up, you and him alike are probably both feeling like you need to defend or attack, but your kids aren't. Your son's comment says it all. Do you remember earlier this year how it was your daughter's rough turn? But, your mothering helped them make it through.
Now, your son got your help. But in truth, isn't that parenting? Enjoy your success in helping your husband reach out for his son...your children and he both need that to build stability for your kids. Stability for them will be for you, too (EVENTUALLY!!).
