Not sure where to start or end, WAW - #2

[TimeHeals]

Seeking closure via another person is a desperate act to feel better and it will backfire every time.

I agree with this wholeheartedly.

Closure comes when it does, and nobody and no conversation with another person is going to give it to you. When you're done, you're just done.

I have given up predicting how long it takes to get to "done" in my own life. I have had short relationships where closure took longer to come than the length of the relationship. I have had long relationships where I was close to done before the relationship even ended, so weeks later, I was fine.

My conclusion is that it depends on what crap you have to work out and learn from so that you stop looking back and reliving all of the crappy feelings.