Exactly, Upside! When I think how many months (years?) I was unable to look squarely at the concept of not being married to my H. Then one day I screwed up my courage, really thought about it, detail by detail, for several hours--and realized I'd be just fine. That's all there'd ever been to it, but the agony I'd been through getting to that point! I guess that's exactly where a C comes in handy, to take you to the places you don't want to go.
