So, I invited her into the R. She said that she wanted more than anything to move back home, but she couldn't trust me now because of the way I've been "acting" toward her
Not to be rude, but all I can say is what the hell do you smoke before you talk with your wife? Invite her into the R? Why? WTH?
If I were her, I wouldn't trust you either. You're all over the map with what you say to her, though your actions are crystal clear: she has you by the shorthairs.
