Not sure where to start or end, WAW - #2

[john28]

OK. Got a L on standby right now. W is asking for 8 years of alimony.... we only were married for 4!!

She said she'd rather take a lesser amount for a longer period of time. I don't want that, and it's pretty much regulation in my state for a marriage lasting less than 5 years that you get 6 months of alimony for every year you were married. I told her that and she thought I was lying or something. Weird.

I had the MC session yesterday with just me. I told her all about the crazy stuff that had been happening. She was bewildered. She thinks both my W and I are off our rocker right now, and I agree. I talked to the MC about W and I being friends and she actually said something I didn't expect. She said that she would advise me not to be friends with her, because she didn't think I could handle it.

She then went into how my W needed to recognize that when she wants a D, she doesn't get to keep the good parts of me and throw away the bad. She throws out everything. I thought that was awesome She was basically saying, "If you continue to be her friend, she'll get just that."

After MC yesterday W came over to drop S off. She asked how MC went. I told her what we talked about - and how if she was going to come back into this R I needed to invite her, and I hadn't done that yet. So, I invited her into the R. She said that she wanted more than anything to move back home, but she couldn't trust me now because of the way I've been "acting" toward her (i.e. - not being super friendly nice guy). I said OK, that's fine, I have invited you back into the R for now only. Then she asked about other things and I told her what the MC said about custody and alimony. She got pretty upset. Apparently by the advice of my MC, she used to think our State handed out every other weekend to poor ol' dad, but she's found from a lot of her clients and lawyer friends that it's moving more towards 50/50 in the cases where there isn't a good reason to keep Dad away. Also, about the alimony basically being 2.5 years for her.

She didn't like that one damn bit. Not one bit. She claimed I was taking everything back we agreed to. Blah blah, insert drama here, blah blah. I told her I wasn't changing everything, but I wanted to sit down again to talk about it because I wasn't happy with the way this was turning out, both Custody wise (we agreed to 65/35 split) and Alimony (couple hundred $ every month). I wasn't happy that she was going to struggle financially and I wasn't happy about the custody arrangement. She started getting emotional at me and started raising her voice. I told her, "Ok. This conversation is over. You need to leave."

She walked out. I told her as she was stomping away, "I will not tolerate you treating me like this in my home. Have a good night." She started yelling again, and I just shut the door and locked it. She started banging on the window and crap, I just ignored her. She peeled out of the driveway and left a huge black skid mark. Then she calls me and leaves me a message that "I'm sorry I peeled out. I didn't mean to. I will help you clean it up." She said that all really nice like nothing happened.

Good GOD I don't understand women!

I've got some time away this weekend to not focus on this crap. My Dad is coming into town tonight and we're playing a golf tournament for the next 3 days together. It will be good to get my mind off of all of this. I'm pretty sore from working out so let's hope I can swing a club half decent