Detaching - any tips on how to detach and go dark emotionally, would be gladly welcome, i seemed to get it right a little while ago, but I think the stresses and strains of getting though this are weakening me emotionally a bit
What has helped me when I am feeling weak and want to make contact is to remind myself that nothing is going to change if I do make contact and that it will just set me back if I do. I tell myself that if or when my H is ready to come forward, he will...until then I am better off with distance. Each time you tell yourself things like this and keep yourself detached, it does get easier.
Just remember that you are ultimately in control of what thoughts linger in your head.
