CG, Find another estate attorney. If he can't communicate with you and the professional realtionship is going to cause a lot of stress then find someone you can work with. It's a business decision. There are enough emotions in dealing with estates, so find someone with compassion, empathy and can relate to you. You are hiring them to work for you and at a hefty fee. Take care of yourself and find the right lawyer.

Cheers

M22,H45,W45 S21/18D12
Retain faith that you will prevail in the end, regardless of the difficulties and at the same time confront the most brutal facts of your current reality, whatever they might be.