I guess the real issue is how to "get your husband so he is ready/willing to listen/understand your side of things" and change some of his behaviors.
Did your former counselor have any ideas?
I think that MWD's advice on 180's and Getting a Life are important vehicles to get your spouse to look at you differently. Looking at you differently is a step in changing how they behave.
You seem to know him pretty well. Any ideas on things he would really really like that you would normally never do that would change his image of you and make him wonder.
You might want to explore creating your own image of a midlife crisis. You remember the Stacy & Clinton "What not to Where" TV show; where with a new wardobe and makeover people's friends and family viewed them differently? Transform yourself into the you that you want to become.
Some other options might include: go get a tattoo, piercing, take up belly dancing, a pole dancing exercise class, start a girls night out with some women friends, take up running/jogging with the goal of entering a race, take fly fishing lessons, take canoeing/kayaking lessons, take some lessons on learning to fly a plane or race car, take some karate lessons, take an NRA course on firearms and join a pistol team/league.
Try something out of your normal comfort zone that might make your husband wonder who you are and question how he treats you. Maybe something that you husband wished he could do.
Good luck. I certainly hope you find the happiness you are looking for.
Getting a Life can also be fun!
>43 years of marriage--My wife and I are now closer than we have been in decades. I believe that my SSM is over.
