I know you're not being difficult with her. This just happens to be an area in which I have a great deal of experience so I wanted to let you know of another common basis for this behavior. (Judges tend to be very jaded about this anxiety and just rip the band-aid off, though.) However, without meeting the parties, etc. there is now way for me to have a clue what is really going on with her.
I finally got my wife to spew last night so I am particularly drained today. It caused me to let go of my anger which immediately caused the hurt and missing her to well up. It just sucks.
