I have focused on my children. I was a workaholic. I worked 13-16 hours a day 6 days a week. I have completely changed my life. I work 8 to 5, 5days a week. I have lost 62 lbs, I have learned to cook, I clean and i even do laundry. I have focused on my children and the household. I have begged her, bad Idea. I have tried NC, didnt work. I have stated my boudaries, she doesnt care.
Now i dont even want to see her right now as it hurts to much. It has been 6 months. Until this week her pay has been deposited in my account, and I have given it to her. She has given nothing back in the form of childsupport. I have made sure her car, insurance and her gym membership has been paid. I have stopped that now. I will not pay for her anymore.
On other sites, the advice is to move on with life, file for divorce and be done with it. I really dont want to file for divorce. I want my marriage back stronger and better than before. I have changed so much, yet she doesnt get the chance to see it. You would think with her mom living with me it would be easy for her to see, but she doesnt talk to her family. She moved right i with the OM and has been there since.
1 know fact is that he is a single man who never wants children. He has never been in a relationship that has lasted more than 6 months.
WHat makes a women leave her kids with their dad and their step dad? I dont get it. She was a great mom, made numerous sacrifices for her children, now this.
There was drugs involved, but just pot. Which both of us have used throughout the marriage. usually one before bed. The EA started with her hanging out at his house all afternoon when she finished work and getting high. then it just progressed.
The entire time she said she loved me and wanted to grow old with me. Even when she didnt come home one night and her brother and i were out til 7am to try and find her. She gave me a song and dance and said she loved me. When we finally went into MC, that is when the affair went from an EA to PA.
My last attempt to talk to her, I asked her to come back to MC and see if their was anyway to work it out between us. She has been saying she is going to get her own place but cant afford it yet, I told her if she came to MC, I would help her. She said, "how can I go to MC living where I am living?". I told her it didnt matter right now, we would go, see if things are possible to fix and then go from there. She still said no.
So I have told her I dont want to see her, dont even pull in my driveway. I cant look at her, I still love her with all my heart. Of that I am certain. How do I get her to realize what she has given up? Is there still hope, or should i just pack it in and move on. This is my last resort, please offer any advise you may have.
