In the end you are responsible for half of the debt. Expect that H will become very difficult to deal with. By moving forward in this direction you are forcing HIM to take some responsibility, which most MLCer's hate.
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I am sad about having to 'stick it to' my H,
Be careful here lala. This can be a very slippery slope. How do you balance what you need vs the normal reaction to "get what you are entitiled to". I will pass along the same advice that I recieved. Do what is right and just in YOUR heart (not what a L or judge says) and always do what is in the best interest of the kids. Even it that means you feel some pain.
A couple of things to consider...
1) How do you see the custody sitch working out. Write it down think about it.
2) What are you TRUE financial needs? Factor some of the incidental into your descision i.e. day care, diapers, entertainment, etc.
3) How will you support your D when this is over?
4) Don't be a fool. Fight for what you believe in.
5) Do not let your H convince you to do or agree to something that is not in your best interest.
6) Before you agree, run it by your L or run it by your family.
7) Keep the anger in check
The hard part of all of this is trying to balance it all. It is a painful process that much I can tell you.
Best of luck Lala...
Remember this...things have a way of working out just the way they are suppose to. Sometimes people change - sometimes they don't. But Change is a natrual part of life how you choose to accept and deal with it....well that is who Lala is - cool thing - YOU CHOOSE cause it is YOUR life.
Oh...happy little friday and be careful what you say around the parrot...I can see it now...
""brahh...polly want a cracker...mommy spoke to a L...brahhh" LOL
God Bless, Eric
"The difficulties of Life are intended to make us BETTER,not bitter". "Fear is a prison, where you are the jailer. FREE YOURSELF!" "Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B." - Jack3Beans
