If you love someone, set them free, if they don't come back, it was never meant to be...if they come back, you can work on the relationship issues with all your new changes....
"What is best for my kids is best for me" Amor Fati Link to quotes: https://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2879712
If you love someone, set them free, if they don't come back, it was never meant to be...if they come, you can work on the relationship issues with all your new changes....
I am trying to reconcile some of the apparently conflicting positions I see. E.G., Don't believe what they say/Give them what they want. They are in a fog, not rational/but they are functioning adults.
what if they say they want to try again? do you believe that, after they said they want to split and you don't believe this?
seems to me, "dont believe anything they say" is actually make it up as you go and don't believe you are drawing the short straw.
This is exactly what I believe too, and am working on that very thing right now. Seeing it here just makes me more committed and is helping to know that my path is the correct one.
Me: 46 WAW: 43 M: 8.5 yrs, T: 9.5 yrs Best friends b4 marriage: 2 yrs EA/PA: 8/10 Told me she doesn't love me anymore: 9/2/10 Kids: 2 stepdaughters: 17,15, Son: 6
If you love someone, set them free, if they don't come back, it was never meant to be...if they come back, you can work on the relationship issues with all your new changes....
This just about sums it all up except that I don't think we are setting them free they are just escaping.
From all i have read on the forum the LBS just needs to back off and see what happens. In my case its just a lot of silence punctuated by bouts of anger when things dont go her way. Not really a lot for me to do except get on with life assuming she is gone for good.
Is it possible to love someone like this. I'm not sure and think I just loved the life we had which seemed good to me. But as for my W at this moment I have to say i don't even like her. i love my kids unconditionally but I think the W had conditions and she has broken all of them.
Strange conflicts. If someone asked do you want your M to survive I would prob say YES. If someone asked me do you want to be married to her I would prob answer "hell NO". very confusing times !!
From all i have read on the forum the LBS just needs to back off and see what happens. In my case its just a lot of silence...Not really a lot for me to do except get on with life assuming she is gone for good.
