Originally Posted By: antlers
I might get a raise over the next 4 years and she wants to have access to it in case it happens.


Did you check with your L on that? Can you she even try for that if you are already D'ed and an agreement has been reached?

Originally Posted By: CityGirl

You might be in financial debt and for a while you will feel like you are in emotional debt but you will never have moral debt. And maybe that is the best victory to savor.


Indeed. You can rest easy every night knowing you TRIED and you are a better person today for it. Hug, Antlers!