Think about it... if he wasn't nervous about the outcome as far as the assets go he wouldn't be texting you at all.
When negotiating making the first move after one set of negotiations has failed is the biggest sign of weakness. Never show your cards. He has reached out to you several times in less than 24 hours. People who are comfortable in their stance don't do that.
No more talking, e-mailing or texting. Like most manipulative and wimpy men (I happen to be an expert in this area as I have had 13 years of experience with such a man he is shaking in his boots because his usual tactics are not working on you any longer. Of course he is going to blame you.
Divorce equals court. Period. Some rare cases work out before court but not many. Do not make ANY more offers to him via any medium and let him make the offers first to your attny. You already said his attny is not good - lol!
You don't ASK for what you want - you say what you want and allow them to offer you enough until you are satisfied with the settlement. Your attny will do this for you.
He is doing just what D did - making it out to be YOUR fault since you won't cave. Sorry, you are done being dictated to.
he is shaking in his boots because his usual tactics are not working on you any longer. Of course he is going to blame you.