Antlers, I'm sorry man! There are no words to make you feel better but take heart in knowing that you at least have some clear ideas of what needs to happen now and how to start rebuilding your life.
The financial hit is horrible when you're the one who worked so hard to build it up piece by piece. I'm in the same boat as you and heading down the same lake so I know how you feel. I'm sorry. But it's only money...it can be had again. And don't give up hope in your prayers. I'm not religious but lately I've started to believe in karma...she'll have to deal with hers when it comes knocking.
Me: 35|WAW: 38|D: 6yo | http://tinyurl.com/2dxx7m6 Feb 2006, left, came back in two weeks Aug 2006, left again Apr 2007, filed for divorce Dec 2007, reunited Mar 2010, moved out, filed again