Quick update. W called me this AM in panic mode saying that D's were driving her crazy and she was going to be late for work and she couldn't find anything for D5's school picture day. After blurting this out, she said omg it's not going to work, I don't have enough time and hung up. She called back a few minutes later and asked me to come over to help. I agreed and brought over a couple of outfits to choose from for D5. I helped get girls ready for school and dropped off D2 at her daycare.

While I was at W's place and D's were going a lil crazy, W asked me if I was getting mad at her for having to be over there while girls were going crazy (part of her anxiety towards me is that I will snap angrily at her or be "mean" her memory of the "mean" me). I havent been that way since the S and said, no way, that dude's long gone. I told her I thought alot of that irritability before was because I was always sleep deprived and addicted to the computer game, so my focus was on the game instead of the world and I would get annoyed when anything would distract me from the game. I also was depressed which made me more irritable. I don't feel like that at all anymore, but I guess W doesn't fully see it yet OR doesn't trust that it is there for keeps (I guess she's starting to notice the change when she referred to the "new" me in that conversation, but I guess she still doesn't fully trust it).

W called me up afterwards thanking me and saying she would repay the favor this afternoon by watching girls so I could do something I needed to do. Parent night tonight at the school...

Is my behavior here considered bad cause it is the "rescue" variety? This is the one I have the most trouble with because it involves the D's. If I had not gone over there, the D's would have been late to school for sure and D5 would have looked crappy for her pic day. I also get W's help for tonight on my end, so I am getting something in return as well. I'm also being responsive to W's request for help instead of initiating doing stuff for her hoping it will get me something in return (affection/co-dependency). Thoughts?

Last edited by bustorama; 09/16/10 04:29 PM.
Me-53
W-49
D22,D18,D15
T-Since-12/2001
Married-9/2004
She Moved Out-5/28/2010
Piecing start-04/2011
Now-together
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