Thanks Kat, sadly, it is coming to my attention this has been going on for a while.

My dad has not been "right" and going downhill for the past 3 years or so. It never occured to me to even think that she may have changed the will in that timeframe!!

She told me she would get me a copy of the will (because I want to show my S and have it known what my dad's intentions were REGARDLESS of what she ends up doing. My dad loved us and ADORED his only grandson.) I will be looking for the date!

My H talks badly about my family all the time--this is just another dig for him to convince my S that my family (and I) are greedy and crazy. Great.

So it's just wonderful that she is doing what she is doing--basically taking away any proof that my dad cared about my S, which he did.

When I went up and confronted her yesterday she backed down a bit and has offered to give my S the last set of golfclubs that belonged to my dad (she has sold the others). He has always had a love of golf and this is an expensive set. Plus he is the one that taught my S to golf. (and if she had been smart, she would have not sold all the others and kept an inexpensive set to give me!)

At first she wanted to keep them "for guests" but I got out my checkbook and asked her what amount of money she needed for that set so that my S would have something nice from his grandfather.

And she backed right down---Oh, no, you can have them, etc. Then she said my S could have anything that was in my dad's den--there are sports pictures signed by athletes, etc. And a closet full of golf stuff that my S used to go in and stare at for hours.

My friends are sceptical that she will keep her word. I tried to take this stuff yesterday but she wants it all displayed for the reception and got very upset that "now is not the time". ugh.

Meanwhile her family is coming in with some very shady characters in it that are probably bringing empty suitcases. I am sickened over this. They will be staying for a week, then my sister and I can come and get my dad's things.

If there IS any bright spot that MAY come out of it, it is the lesson that it is teaching my H and I how to protect our S if we remarry. But love being blind, not 100% sure that the lesson will stick with my H...

My friends have come through for me AGAIN in the most amazing ways! I am in shock at how many have offered to come with me to the funeral, even though it is an hour away. I've said it over and over again, but I need another lifetime to make up to them for all their kindness. I feel stupid telling them over and over again how much I love them but the fact is--I do.