What are you doing for YOU? Cutting out bad habbits, fitness routine, nutrition program, GAL activities?
I ask because the whole detached & confident thing might give you more options. It's always wise to protect yourself on one front, but... whether or not you embrace this and have a better time with it is up to you.
WWCGS? (What Would Cary Grant Say)
Hypothetical movie script starring Katherine Hepburn & Cary Grant:
KH: "You deserve somebody who loves you".
CG: "I do? I'm glad you agree with me. You see there? We don't disagree on everything--<wink>".
KH: "You're not taking me serious!".
CG: "I am. I always take beautiful women seriously, especially when they are beautiful women telling me I deserve love--big smile".
M-47,W-40,No kids D-filed 5/27/2010 Piecing - 10/21/2010 -=Soon to be banned=-