Everyone here is correct. I love Gritt's response. I would also be wearing my wedding ring but our D13 was playing with it and didn't tell me and went down the bathroom sink.
I do wear my engagement ring though. You are not a failure at all, you are doing great. I work full time and a part time job so my house is a mess. I was so depressed and tired (still am), that I let things go but I have started to make the kids help more and I'm doing things a little at a time. So I know how you feel.
I was wondering if I could vent on here too? That's if you don't mind. I'm having a terrible day today myself and was wondering if I could get some advice from you and others. I just don't know what to think or do on this situation. If you mind just let me know and I won't post except on you sitch ever again.
Need to vent.
Update. Last night our D13 told me that the guidance counselor told her that H had called the school and talked to her and told her he wants all reports on our daughter. He wants copies sent to his apartment of her report cards and other things like if she gets detention or something.
Well, she had a form that needed to be filled out for the nurse yesterday and it asked for both of our addresses if parents are separated or divorced. So I told her to text him even though he would be sleeping and ask for his address (since I still don't know it).
Well, he gets up around 3 a.m. and when we were getting ready for school and work she checked her phone and he never texted her back. So she tries to call him so she can take the form back to school today. He doesn't answer so she texts him again and his response was they already have it and she told him okay but she needed it for another form for the nurse. Same response comes back, they already have it.
Now remember, he has no rights to her. He gave them up over a year ago in May. I do let H see her when she wants to see H. I was looking at this as a positive thing....H being involved with her school work last night but now he just seems to be wanting a reaction from me!!!
Do I contact the school (which I told them a year ago in May) that H doesn't have rights to her at all? Is this just another way to p*ss me off by not answering her about his new address?
I purposely have not asked her for the address for a month now, but the more I think about it I want to know the exact address and where she is going to be when with H. I know the city, but not the street address.
Why can't he just pick up the phone and call me and ask for copies of her report cards or ask how she is doing?
He told D13, still don't know why in the middle of May that if I text him he will read it but not respond. I haven't heard from him since. He asks D13 if I have a boyfriend or other things, has her in the middle so much.
We were doing good in March, even thinking about dating to see where things go. He must have spoke to his family about it, cause what they say goes like a little kid, and he said it wouldn't be a good idea. And now that his family is more involved (I think they had something to do with this) is H doing what they are telling to do? There is no OW but it is like there is because H lets his family tell him what to do and when to do it.
I really thought things were going to get a little better. H going to the Dr., taking AD's again, getting involved with our D's school stuff but I'm wondering now if this is just another game with him to get a reaction out of me as far as not giving our D13 the exact address.
