WAW Wants to Separate - Not sure What to Do

[rb1967]

GH3421 I feel your pain except a little reversed. I am new here also so I am going to just give you some words of encouragement. It is definately hard and I know emotional in the last month I have been all over the place from crying to cursing. But you have got to get a hold of yourself. I have had to read the DR at least twice and several chapters more that that. I suggest you do the same. I also got a tablet where i write down my relationship thoughts and feelings so that I dont have to vomit them all over my H. I have started GAL. That is really hard but even if its just a hobby that keeps you home-its all about keeping your mind clear and in check. Once I got it in my mind that where I should focus, dealing with my husband has become easier. He is now talking about our future and speaking as if he is not leaving. Most of all he has told me he loves me which he hasnt said in years.
In essence, you are gonna make some mistakes, Lord knows I didnt every thing wrong even after I read DR. But just read it again, cruise these message boards for more strenght and focus and take each day as a new one regardless of what you may have flubbed up the day before.
I think the most important thing was when I began to give my husband space in our house. When we talk and its just chit chat I go with that. I just try not to crowd him. This believe it or not is working. I also feel better now that I am not quite as scared he is gonna bolt for the door. God Bless you . You will get thru this.