Here I am.

[Hosea]

exposure aside, does anyone have any advice on how to keep the door open? Shes still 3 months from coming home and has cut off all communication with me besides talk of the kids/finances.

I'm not going to reward her behavior by sending her gifts in a care package, but I do think its right to keep sending her pictures of the kids. She has said that one of the big problems was that I wasn't sending her enough care packages. Its kinda ludicrous to expect that kind of stuff when you are having an affair and were only giving your husband "I love you/miss you toos", but that is how she feels and I accept that.

I read a success story about a man whos wife was working in another country and had pretty much distanced herself and cut him off. He didn't put pressure on her, just wrote her occasional letters about the kids and everyday things he was doing/feeling. No R talk at all. He knew that she wouldn't resist opening a letter from home and it allowed her to see him as a person, not just a babysitter. Would my wife resent this?

Walking a fine line here and not sure how to proceed. Any advice, especially a female perspective, is welcome.