Another story of a WH and an LBS

[gatsby11]

Oh, I was ignoring him. Ha ha.

The Hunger Games trilogy is youth fiction. But it's sooo good. All of my adult friends are reading it! I'm in the 3rd book...

So WH and I have been emailing huge long emails. Working through what happened in the separation. His perspective is so weird to me. I kind of get what he was thinking, but it's hard for me to grasp!

We'll see what happens. I'll let y'all know!

I guess I have to say-- it's not over 'til the divorce papers are signed. And even not then.

[newmama]

Well at least you guys are talking! Is your H starting to be consistent with what he needs or wants? Or is he waffling?

[Babydoll]

Gatsby, even when they're signed its not over! That was my turning point! Lol! Now H says he never took them back from me bc he knew he didn't want it. Said he knew when he gave them to me.

It is strange their perspective on things... My H says he filed bc I said we either get divorced or you work things out (which I did, but not thinking he would file) but I can't take the full blame. Maybe only 25%. Lol.

But as hard as it may be. Just be patient... Low expectations... Focus on you and bub... He'll come around when he is ready. Create a warm welcoming, non hostile environment. He'll find his way back! At least I think he will.

[gatsby11]

It is strange their perspective on things... My H says he filed bc I said we either get divorced or you work things out (which I did, but not thinking he would file) but I can't take the full blame. Maybe only 25%. Lol.

Yep, that's similar to what my WH said. That I left him because I moved out, and I also said some very sharp things to make him think I wanted out. I agree with you, though-- I can only take 25%.

He also said "I think about getting back together with you all the time, but I worry that we won't be able to make it."

He came over last night, and said that he would respond to my email response soon.

As he left, he responded to one thing I said. I had said that every time he leaves my place, I'm sure that he's going to a place or with people that he would rather be. And as he left he said, "I don't leave your place with something better to do; just want you to know that."

So we'll see.

Thanks for your responses, guys!

[Piano]

WH is saying weird stuff. Like he's the victim, the misunderstood one. Geez!

Good he admits he is not going onto better things. Phew.

But he needs to man up and become less ambivalent about wanting to be in the relationship with you.

Maybe it's a question of time, keep doing what's working. But if something's not working, change it.

Hope you're doing OK, G?

[gatsby11]

Yeah P, you're totally right about manning up.

Yes.

I am doing pretty well. Still reading my book, did Jillian's Shred 1 workout yesterday, am running with a friend (and baby of course!) soon, and trying to figure out how to squeeze my job into 43 hours a week.

NM, how many hours a week would you say you're working?

Oh, and my brother and dad are coming down to help move my sister in fully. So I've got family time on the agenda for the next three days.

Ok, going to do a quick thread check!

[newmama]

wow, G-- you are doing the Shred? I hear it totally kicks your butt! Are you sore? You will be back in shape in no time. HOw long is it?

Well, since I had to move my classroom on 9/2, I have been working 60 hours per week.(Labor day weekend I worked 32 hours!) BUT I just got my "system" all mapped out, and my schedule, and my materials so I hope to God (seriously) it will simmer down to 45 (we all work more than 40!).

Here is a totally awesome website for making fun card or board games- it has a Kinder title but scroll because it has games for any age I think! (I don't know about highschoolers- do they still like to play board games and card games? I KNOW middle schoolers do!)

I REALLY like the football game! there is a typo in the directions, though. The game stops when someone draws a "Game over!" whistle card (not a touchdown card)

http://www.kellyskindergarten.com/Games/GamestoMake/games_to_make.htm

[gatsby11]

Hating WH right now.

He just sucks.

Hasn't replied yet to my email. Isn't working this week. (I'm having him take little girl to the daycare because he needs to do SOMETHING since he's not working.)

He just really sucks.

He is at my place with my dad and brother, texting. Texting who? Who knows.

He tells me, when everyone leaves, that he is writing me back, but it's really difficult.

He says "I just don't think that we could ever be affectionate after all that's happened."

I say "We could if both of us wanted to. If one person doesn't, then of course not."

I become very stony for the rest of his visit. He even said "well, I have to go..." It just pisses me off. Oh because you DON'T have somewhere better to go? get it right, obviously you DO!!

And he's wearing his converse and having his cool bike-- whatever is the trendiest hipster bike, that's what he's got. growing out his hair, blah blah. such a poser.

so yeah i'm totally hating him right now.

okay, on to other things.

i have exercise TV and they have the Shred on it. So... I didn't buy it, and I don't think I have all of the Shreds. Just the first one. ??

And thanks for the link, NM, really!!! I will probably use it.

[gatsby11]

Oh and this is back to money.

He wants to sell the car that he bought with our joint account in February. And I bet he wants all of the profits. Well, he bought the car about a week before I found out about making out with work chick and split our accounts. So I do think I should get half of his profits. I really do.

And laser hair removal.

And maybe not 20% child support, but 17%.

As he was biking his merry self away tonight, I thought-- I used to be his biggest supporter. BIGGEST. People thought he was an ass, I defended him. There was a dispute, I supported him.

Now I am NOT!

[gatsby11]

so confuz.... ED. (supposed to be read like mike meyers in so i married an axe murderer.)

We were sharing in emails, then he flaked out, I called him on it, he got mad, I decided to focus on me and forget him again to find happiness, and now he sends me a "i remember when" email.

i'm just confused.