Trust me on this one. What you feel appears to other people and your H, and what truely appears are two completely different things. My H has slipped up and said things before like "I deserve to get a life just like you have" ?????? I have a life? My friends think I'm the strongest thing since Hercules, even though they think that I'm all for and ready to divorce. Not that I've told them that, just they assume.
You do not appear pathetic. You appear strong, committed, mature, and appealing.
I have these same self doubts and confusion. I don't think anyone who is here doesn't at one time or another. But in my mind and heart, I know better, and you should too.
