I'm so sorry, it is one thing to suspect it and another to have it confirmed, it is such a huge blow to the gut. Remember that this is about him, not you. Are you seeing a C? It is helping me, along with reading everything I can to help me through this. The sooner you get yourself established in the new area, the better for future divorce proceedings, I have learned that. I'm going against my L advice staying here, but it is more for my kids than H at this point. And keep posting, this really does help you get through it.
Dagny
Me 48, H49, M24, S14, S11 DB #1 4/2002-8/2003 Bomb #2 August 2010 & he moved out Living with OW