Just the male perspective here. I will speak from my own experience. I have friends that go back to grade school and I still keep in touch.
That being said I can tell you that my friends all had something to say about my W and my sitch. And for a long time it mattered very much to me what their perceptions were of me and W.
When I began to grow after coming here I began to see my relationships in a new way.
It was knowing myself that allowed that to happen. I found I had to draw boundaries with some of my "perpetually stuck in adult male adolescent" friends. We are still friends but I don't let myself be caught up in that state of mind any longer.
My point is when you grow you change and maybe he is looking at this friendship for what it really brings to him.
You realize just as you can sacrifice yourself to a M you can also do that with frienships and you remain stuck just the same.
Just my thoughts...
My goal is to some day be the person my dog thinks I am
