Just found you again, Pie. So sorry to hear there is a OW. I know that dropped in the stomach feeling, for sure. Caught up with your posts, and a word stuck out, skidonk. Now, I only know one country where that is used, and it's where I'm from. If I'm wrong, then sorry, or jammer?
Anyway, whether you are or not, we are certainly going through a rough time. You more than me at the moment. Have you been to see a lawyer yet? You need to find out what your rights are. If there is another woman in the picture, then there may be a chance he will act on getting a divorce, and it might be a good idea to be prepared.
Take care.
Me:57 H:52 M:28 Got another lawyer last year and filed. D35,S/D twins28,D22 EA4/04 End? Who knows? "Life is like a mirror. Smile at it and it smiles back at you." — Peace Pilgrim