CD Bear and BeingMe thank you for your replies. I very much appreciate the support. The list will be very helpful. I will make sure to keep referring back to it. I'm afraid I gave into the desire to contact him today and sent a text message saying I still don't want the divorce, etc., etc. Must work on creating a distraction for myself so I don't do that. Logically I know he doesn't want to hear that sort of thing but it's hard to get my heart to listen. Got to listen to the head!
I'm not aware of an OW. If time reveals anything else I guess I will have to deal with it.
I have an interstate trip in a couple of weeks which involves spending time concentrating on one of my hobbies. It was planned before the bomb was dropped and I thought about cancelling because I didn't think I'd be in the mood. I decided to still go because I need to do things I enjoy. It will also be good because it will be nearly all females so it's something just for me, and I'll have some fun.
Me: 40 H: 39 no kids together 8 years married 6 years bomb: 31 Aug 10