CG, I know it feels personal, but I think the trick is to try not to take your sister's actions and words personally. She is fighting a battle within herself, and you are the easy target. You are big sister, the one who takes care of things, and somehow, in her mind, you didn't protect her from this. It's not your fault! Take care of yourself, your health. The rest will work itself out.
Jeff, that's what I said too. CG loves her sister very much (and vice-versa) so it's understandable CG is upset.
CG's your sister took this (dad's passing) very hard and couldn't deal with it even back then and you were left to take care of all (some very serious) the things yourself. Your sister was also not eager to go today and tried to cancel but she did anyway, unfortunately, when things sounded complicated from the legal stand point that was the final straw that broke the camel's back. Who's she going to blow up on? the person she's closest to.
She obviously needs to find a way to deal with her feelings/issues. However, this is in no way your fault, hell, you've been carrying all this weight on your shoulders in addition to everything else that's been happening in your life. There's nothing more you can do or say.
The best thing to do IMHO is to just give her space and time to process all this. She'll realize on her own that you've done nothing wrong...quite the opposite- you've been shielding her as much as possible and the legal crap is not in your control. It is what it is.
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CityGirl...your posts to others are so thoughtful and insightful, so rock solid and down to earth...just plain old damn good! I wish I had the words to help you as you do me. I think you're about as stout as anybody I've run across along these lines. I'm hopeful that the strength and fortitude and sound wisdom that we see from you on this board will be evident and useful to you too as you deal with the things that you are.
If you're going through hell, keep going - Winston Churchill
Agreed. 100%. You're the voice of strength and wisdom.
Hope you feel better! I know you will...tomorrow will be a new day.
(((hugs)))
Me: 35|WAW: 38|D: 6yo | http://tinyurl.com/2dxx7m6 Feb 2006, left, came back in two weeks Aug 2006, left again Apr 2007, filed for divorce Dec 2007, reunited Mar 2010, moved out, filed again
