I am trying to reconcile some of the apparently conflicting positions I see. E.G., Don't believe what they say/Give them what they want. They are in a fog, not rational/but they are functioning adults.
what if they say they want to try again? do you believe that, after they said they want to split and you don't believe this?
seems to me, "dont believe anything they say" is actually make it up as you go and don't believe you are drawing the short straw.
