How should I proceed now? Is there hope?

[Piano]

All these clues are surfacing now, and I realize that I sold myself short in our relationship

Your post made me all choked up because it reminded me that my WH also neglected me. I remember arriving at almost all social occasions on my own (he didn't want to meet up earlier to arrive as a couple - now this is fine from time to time, but 99% of the time it is just weird!), going on holidays on my own with other friends... his excuse was always work, and he WAS busy! But still, they find the time to have affairs don't they? And the thing that helped me remember these thing is you describing how your H always walked a few metres in front of you. Mine too!! I am a slow worker, he is brisk, but still! It's as though I was a nuisance, totally forgettable...