WAW left on Independence Day and not communicating

[NotCrackingUp]

Hello HIH,

I was sorry to see that your W is talking D, but glad you seem calm and aren't losing sleep. Like you say, it's not over untill the fat lady sings. I know nothing about D in France, let alone in the US. Good you've so many experienced helpers (alas!).

A thought or two: from what you report, and taking into account I know nothing of the procedures, she's not straightforward. I'd have imagined "I want a divorce; you'll be getting a letter from my solicitor, Mr XYZ in the next few days." Yet she sems hesitant. Although you also mention she's careful with money. She seems to want you to do the donkey work and foot the bill.


Would it be a good idea to stage a meeting with her - without any lawyers present - on neutral ground? You haven't seen her nor she you for a while, you've surely got lots to discuss. That way, you could let her see the new you.

On the other hand, mustn't chase. And you want to keep in the lead.

Very tricky, but you'll manage. What seems to "work" is being and doing the opposite of what your WAS expects and wants.
Anyway, very good luck and courage. And enjoy the hols. Take a beautiful girl along with you and let her know, maybe?

NCU