O...M...G!!! Wonka! I didn't know what NPD stood for so I googled it, and found Narcisitic Personality Disorder. It describes my H to a T

He is/can be an excellent soldier, father, husband, but it given to bouts of grandiosity; must be admired at all times.

So what did you mean by "the exception would be if the spouse had NPD??

ME: 54
Him: 51
M: 20 years T: 21 years
OW/New wife: 36
Sons & Daughters: 7 (ages 24-36)
Bomb: March 4, 2010
He Filed: April 28, 2010
I Contested: May 1, 2010
Standing Down: 11/24/10
Divorced : 05/04/2011