F*^K - you guys just about did my head in. I have been away from the boards for a couple of months and it has taken me an hour to wade through all that perspective, suggestive, forget it stuff.
I had an affair. I also had a husband that loved me to the core and whom i equally adored. Figure that out !
SP bring this marriage to an end. They say you don't have a good settlement until both parties feel ripped off. VERY TRUE. My settlement involved companies and buildings. After $100 000 in legal bills I threw my hands up, signed the papers, banked the cheque and took the kids to Thailand ( where you see that life can be lived in a tin shed with no running water and 1 satelite dish ) ( I also discovered that true love can come in the shape of disgusting old men and 12 year old beautiful Thai girls )
Who cares if STBX has new man. He will not replace you. You analyze and worry over crap. You don't know him.
In my country I remain married until someone pays the $100 and picks up the papers. As that has not happened with us we still are technically married. So when I am filling out forms , it depends on my mood as to whether i am MRS, Ms , Miss or just plain happy. What I am not, is emotionally tied to him anymore and that happened as soon as we settled. Load off shoulders etc etc.
Simplify simplify. Your intelligent people. Revisit your financial wants. How important is it all ! Have you examined all options available to you. Surely your talents are needed in whatever city you live in.
Sorry for ramble but I was buying time to regain my will to live !
