Shakedown Street

[ImprovedRomeo]

I am unclear how he benefits from having things remain frozen as HIS portion is also frozen. It's not like just my portion is frozen. For somebody that is so broke (but just purchased a new BMW and has taken 16 vacations over the course of one and a half years) you would think he would be eager to get his funds.

And yes, I know it's about control. I do think the OW is giving him problems - no way my H would leave the position he had to take a job making less to travel 90% of the time. He told me he did that for "us" (LOL!) when my guess is he needed a way to run from OW.

I know I often come off bitter and sometimes I am. I followed the letter of the law EXACTLY and 10 months after our case was legally declared I am in no better a position I was in almost 3 years ago. It's not an easy place to be because my finances are restricted and despite seeing a financial planner and CPA it's a real strain. I have VERY high medical expenses each month despite having great insurance and it's stressful to worry each month I won't be able to afford meds or labs.

IMHO it is about control, the OW and a small part the ins thing. I think the worse his situation gets with OW the more he's drawn to you. The more he wants you and the less he wants to lose you. What he doesn't realize is that blocking the D against your wishes and pretending to 'help' you monetarily when he feels like it is not going to help his case.

I mean generally speaking I will always wish for everyone to reconcile but some people are just too emotionally abusive. What he's put you through and yet karma hasn't eaten him up alive is mind blowing. Every step you take and there's a road-block goes back to him- including today!