Nobody suggested you tell her to "screw off". She has already gotten really nasty with you so that is a non issue. She did demand with very little respect to you as a man or father that you pay for your daughter's daycare AFTER you simply wanted to have a conversation about it. In fact, she only had the time to dictate to you what you will be doing in one line. No please, no thank you - she issued the orders and that was that.
You don't need to say anything to her about anything other than... "at this time the only money you will be receiving from me is the court ordered support... if you are in need of money my offer to you is a final and complete settlement offer"
That is not telling her to screw off - it's telling her you won't be funding anymore of her choices outside of what the court has ordered you to do. You *are* giving her an option which is far more than she has extended to you.
You make business deals all day long - you know how this works.
Being "nice" has gotten you nowhere except more broke. As I said I think this is your golden ticket. This is the SECOND time since she left you that she has been scrambling for money for housing. The first time she went right to the attny - now she is coming to you. Why is that? My guess is she knows she will look like a huge ass asking for MORE money when she is getting plenty already each month. She also knows she will look like an ass as adults don't have to make "fast moves" out of their friends house and it certainly is not a stable way for a child to live. She knows legally her hands are tied so now she is coming to you first. Too late. She could have come to you the 8 million times you asked her to settle out of court with a VERY generous offer.
Funny she agreed to a full week of custody right off the bat and all this just so happened on your first week.
