We got back together after I started to change as a person, lost weight, got involved in various activities, and made her No1 in my life, but some how we have fell into the same old routine and she wants out.
She has told me I'm a loner, who does not interact, aggressive in the way I speak, don't do anything with her as a couple, I have mood swings, and she has had enough, I cannot argue with anything she has said, but I'm totally lost without her?
I know I have gone back over,I have no life other than home and work, we don't do anything as a couple anymore, after putting this right previously, she goes to the gym and has friends, whilst I'm happy just to be at home and it's not working.
Your W's complaints sounds like mine, just your W communicated them more effectively. Did you originally change because you wanted too? Or was it to get her back? Has to be for you.
I hate to say, but you and I are just not as exciting to our W's anymore. They are missing that attraction and if we don't grow with them as a couple or as an individual, we find ourselves here posting.
I'm not kidding when I say this, but if you have had any thought or intuition that there might be someone else (even a tiny weird action that you've seen that made you think)...Trust that internal alarm! She is more than likely eyeing another Man that HAS what she doesn't see in you.
The "appointments" at night is the red flag! These "friends" are not just women. I was in denial until I started to dig, unfortunately I was a little late.
Take this opportunity to follow Robx's advice NOW. There is no way this is going to get better until you change the dynamics.
