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[ClingingToHope]

Yes, I read DB and DR and they didn't work for me in terms of saving the M. They did work for me in terms of saving myself. The don't pursue, going dark, GAL lessons shifted my focus on continuing to find some magic bullet to convince STBXW she was wrong to focusing on myself.

Of course, I still focus too much on STBXW. I agree with the above post. I don't know if I'll ever be 100 percent done until one of us dies.

I think I'm also "pushing away" rather than "letting go," but that's what's working for me now.