My "suggestion" on sorting out the truck was really just that. I worked a deal with people I knew that seemed fair and offered her a couple vehicle/payment examples.
When she said she was dealing elsewhere because the warranty is better (longer) and the payments are slightly lower, I told her I understood her point and it may be better for her in the long run. At least SHE was acting on her own and ultimately this is HER vehicle; HER payment; HER consequences if they occur. I wasn't going to be controlling. I should have phrased my earlier description of her text a little more clearly.
To be clear, she is actually "still" living with the OM as all lthat has changed is that they aren't with his Bro and SIL; they are now with her friend. Sitch same; location different.
Though I will discuss this with a lawyer (got my referral this morning), I have been told on other phone consults that there is NOTHING I can do about D2 and OM unless I can prove abuse/safety issue.
Adultery itself is also of no value in divorce other than perhaps a character issue. Of course, carting my D around to various places and living like gypsies is an issue I may be able to turn into "Primary Custody"
I will seek two Sep Agreement options. One where we hold the house till the market improves enough to clear our debt AND maximize my net cash recovery. Second where she walks for 1 dollar and forfeits everything to compensate for the approx 24K she will owe to debt which I will assume. The speed version.
She did this with her ex-fiance 7 years ago. There was less at stake but PEA Blindness could come into play here.
If it is equitable and doable for me, I'll entertain it.
I'll simply hold the house myself til market recovers and THEN sell it and downsize.
Side note- Her BB Status changed this morning. "Good things fall apart so that better things can fall together"
Not exactly something I would live by. Yeesh.
Not the kind of "personal digging" I'm trying to do. Far too defeatist and victim-esque. Especially strange given the situation.
Can't remember what "page of the WAS script" she is on but I'm tiring of hearing about it. If she has something to say......
