New to this Community seeking advice

[JR09]

Carlos,

Great to hear from you again. Thanks for your insight on detaching. I'll hopefully see my boys again during the first week of OCT. I have 3 days that I'll use to drive up to ID and see them. Already gave my W a heads-up. Hopefully it will be as smooth as this last time during Labor day weekend when I drove up there to see them for 2 days.

I understand the principle behind detaching. I realize it's not always easy to do, but it can help if it's done correctly. I understand it really is designed to help ME and accept ANY outcome in my situation. The focus is less on the W and more on finding myself again. I think that's how most of you, Coach, Michelle, and you Carlos, have framed it.

I am not sure if I have truly detached. I definitely don't call my W as often as I used to. I really try to focus on the boys. I try my best to GAL. I don't feel the need to hang on to everything my W says on the phone. Yet, I know I still fall under the trap of trying at times to read her mind or analyze what she implied with this or that comment.

I still have a lot more to do, I guess. Thanks again for the insight Carlos.

JR