Faith, you do not have to apologize anymore. It is not a matter of you trying to say something that will fix her or the R.
I agree and will not.
Originally Posted By: sandi2
If she is still lying about her A, it is either b/c she's going deeper undercover and thinks she can make you believe it was just your imagination.....or else she's in some kind of denial (which seems crazy, but the mind can do crazy things).
After you put it that way, I think it's a form of denial. She has always had a repression issue. The kind where she would hold it in til she exploded. Anytime I ever asked her to talk about something, I always received "I'm Fine". Her wanting to open up right now and admit anything seems highly unlikely. Being with her as long as I have, I believe she's trying to ignore it, justify it, and repress it til it goes away. Might be mind reading, but I've seen identical patterns before, just not at the A level.
Originally Posted By: sandi2
I think at this point, you need to focus on yourself GAL. Don't push her about her feelings toward anything. Don't ignore her or act cold, but treat her as if she was just a kid sister or somebody. The least thing can make her feel that you are smothering her.
That's all I can do. You're right, if I keep prying for the truth she's going to turn from a jog to a full sprint run away. I really see the push/pull dynamic here. Nothing is accomplished by me saying anything anymore.
Originally Posted By: sandi2
If you still love her, then don't give up yet. Getting a life and focusing on the things you like does not mean you've given up.
I know it's confusing for you. I know it's awful. Try to be strong and take care of "you".
I do love her, but I don't like the lies. It hurts to be betrayed, but I also know that she could have felt betrayed too. Hence, 2 wrongs don't make a right. I will just focus on my confidence from here. My self-esteem is just shot.
