What did your WA bring to the relationship?

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But seriously, do we evaluate our relationship based on the negatives or do we include the positives, too?

Actions. She moved out, and she took the kids, and doesn't let him see them and refuses to get on a co-parenting calendar even. She has retained an attorney and has initiated the divorce process.

She isn't calling him up and asking him out to dinner. She's hinted around about things enough so that he's been effectively warned that she's going for primary custody with as little time as possible with dad.

Not saying things will always be this way, but it is what it is, right? It's not like it's hard to read these things or that she's sending mixed signals.

I'm all for being fun, charming, empathetic, and so on. Being foolish and not protecting yourself, however, isn't being charming or even wise.