My concern is that a lot of the advice here pushes people headlong into the abyss. In other words, the WAS will say they want a divorce and the conventional wisdom is to tell the LBS to say, "Hell yeah," and speed the process along.
In the case of a WAW, (as described by MWD, not just any spouse that wants out) there are two forces at work; the stress and pain of staying and working on the M; and, the relief from stress that the constructed divorce plan provides. If you can relieve the stress of the relationship by DBing, you can make the divorce plan less compelling. Ultimately, you may even turn the R around.
I think there is a substantial difference between "letting go" and "pushing away." Having said that, not every case involves a true WAW as described by MWD.
